So how do you stay calm, composed
and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to
consider as a starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board.
Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or
another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in
ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of
you. So which dart pins should you
avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work
Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory
where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where
non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your
contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the
time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self
esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in
a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s
Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers,
gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded,
controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these
kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self
improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a
brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility,
adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for
awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our
selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!”
when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It
might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake
as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at.
Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self
esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your
behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits
(genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such
as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have
your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be
a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter
the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder
if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and
staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self
improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from
heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self
esteem and improve your self.”
In life, its hard to stay tough
specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get
to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to
use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of
more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a
bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes
from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change
changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self esteem will
eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who
we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually
spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we
take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement,
true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building
blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative.
Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you
build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.
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